Wow, it's only been a week. The longest and shortest ever it seems. 7 days ago was one of the most stressful days of my life, and that first night was incredibly hard. Every day is better and better. If I didn't know that Joshua had surgery, I probably would never guess. He is back to his always charming self, and wants to spend his whole day gaming. He is still a bit limited in the things he can do. He really can't run around like a crazy boy, he can't go swimming and I have to force him to read. But I am back to limiting game time a bit. Next Friday we see the surgeon for his follow up appointment. He will have a few limitations for about six months, until the breastplate is fully healed. No lifting a heavy backpack (going to have to figure that out), and no contact sports or activities where there could be impact to his chest (like bike riding). Other than that, he can do normal stuff. Thank you all for everything. The prayers, positive energy, get well cards, evening meals and most if all, giving us the amazing gift of coming home to a newly cleaned house. We appreciate each and every one if you more than words can express.
Joshua David... Our Preemie Journey!
Thursday, July 30, 2015
Sunday, July 26, 2015
Home
We are home!! Josh is having some game time. The one hour rule is kind of out the window for a little bit. After all of this, we are pretty much allowing most things!
Discharge day!
The talk is that we are coming home today. Strange thinking that he had open heart surgery less than 72 hours ago. All but that first day have been smooth, and medically the first day went great, it was just very emotional for us. Kids are definitely resilient! He is not back to 100% obviously. We still have work to do to make sure he continues to recover and is back to his crazy, goofy, adorable self soon. Thanks to everyone for the prayers, positive energy, friendship and kind words. It does take a village! I can't imagine being alone during all of this. I have amazing family and friends. Thank you from the bottom of our hearts.
Saturday, July 25, 2015
Good night
Joshua slept all night, even with the nurse coming in 4 times to check his blood pressure. Probably the first good night since we got here (even though that's only been 2 nights!). Today, I think the plan is to get him out of bed and walking. He really hasn't complained of any pain. I am amazed. Have a good day all. I will update if there is anything new.
Friday, July 24, 2015
Moving already
Out of the PICU and onto regular pediatrics.... Didn't think things would move so quickly!
Playing games
Josh only has 2 lines left. The central line in his neck, and one IV. Things are moving quickly. The chest drain was removed. He is now sitting up in a chair and playing........minecraft. you guessed it! Who would've though after open heart surgery he would be up and moving post op day 1.
And a big thank you to Marcia and Scott for the balloons and teddy bear!!
Foley gone!
The catheter was removed, and he is feeling relieved. He had his first sips of water, and the look on his face was pure bliss. Next, some pancakes and yogurt. He is starving!! Have to work on the lungs today. Taking those deep breaths and getting some good air flow. Still lots of milestones to conquer, but we are on the way.
Good morning!
It's been a long night. Josh seems to be very comfortable. No issues so far with the drain tube or incision. He is however, having major issues with the catheter. Somehow, he has been peeing around it. Still has tons of urine in the tube, but has been asking for the bed pan every hour or so. They plan to remove that this morning, and then I think he will really happy, and more comfortable.
The only pain meds overnight have been tylenol.
He has,food belly sounds this morning so it looks like he will be able to drink and eat today.
We don't know for sure, but hopefully today will be removal of a lot of the tubes. Good day!
Thursday, July 23, 2015
PICU
Joshua has tubes and lines everywhere. We counted 6. He has a central line in his neck, an arterial line, 2 IV's, a chest drain and a catheter. We are surrounded by awesome, caring staff. He wants to drink and is hungry, but no bowel sounds yet, so the best we can do is glycerin swabs, and lip balm. We are hoping that tomorrow will be some tube removal, and at least some oral fluids. He is in and out of sleep, which is good. He needs rest. He did ask to play on his tablet, which we would have allowed, but it needs a bit of charging. He is half watching Disney channel. We are expecting a sleepless night for us, just because I will wake up for every movement. We know that today is the worst, but we know every day will be better.
Resting
We have been in with him for a few hours now. The hardest thing for Dave and I is seeing him in any type of pain. They are keeping on top of it, but there have been a few times that he has woke up in pain, and that of course made me cry. Heis comfortably resting right now. It's going to be a long night. Tomorrow will be a much better day.
All done
We talked to the surgeon. All went well. He is off the ventillator and his heart rhythm is good. He is in the PICU noe, and we should be able to see him in a few min.
Hard part done
Surgery day!
Wednesday, June 10, 2015
The Verdict- Heart Surgery
We haven't received the call from the surgeon yet (just his cardiologist). The good thing is, that Yale Cardiology takes the results to the group, and a group of 10 cardiologists determine whether the results indicate surgery. It was unanimous. So while I can't tell you all when, as we don't have a date yet, it will be this summer. I am shooting for July so that he has lots of recovery time before school starts. Once we have a date we can tell you more. We do know that he will be at Yale for 4-5 days and home recovering for another 7-10. Mostly normal activities after 2 weeks. While we knew that this was probable, getting the news still hit me hard. I have my big girl panties on now. We will need lots of prayers, positive energy, blessings.. whatever it is you all do. Love you all, thank you for being my friends and support!!
Friday, April 04, 2014
Tired of being strong
Anesthesia scares me. Breaking apart his chest to get to his heart, freaks me out. Stopping his heart so that the can remove the membrane scares the crap out of me. I know that we have 6 months of thinking about this and praying that when we go back the news is good. The reality of this is that if not now, it probably is going to happen eventually. I was living in that fantasy that we would never have to do this and that is usually not my style.
So the big girl panties are back on. I am sure I will have my moments in the next 6 months where I quietly lose it, and I will hope and pray that when we go back to get the tests again that all is good. And in my mind,I will prepare for this so that I am not blindsided with something unexpected. Thanks my friends for listening to my rant. Most will NEVER see this as this blog is not read as often as it used to be. Few will and get a glimpse of the real me, the one who is not always in control.
Thursday, April 03, 2014
Surgery in our future?
We got that news yesterday after Josh's 4th echocardiogram. Dr. Fahey couldn't read it while we were at our visit so he said he would call us with the results. When he did it was not what we wanted to hear. The good news is, we will do another Echocardiogram in 6 months, the bad news is, there is most certainly a surgery in Joshua's future. Super bad news is, surgery for this is open heart - this means that in order to even get to his heart they have to go in through the rib cage and breast plate. So they will have to open the breast plate to get to his heart. They will also have to stop his heart during the surgery in order to operate and remove the membrane. And lastly, the super, super bad news is that this membrane can grow back.
So now for the best case scenario- it was a bad Echo (the changes were significant) and we can put this off for a few years. The worst case scenario, after the next Echo in 6 months, we will be looking at surgery at Yale. I wouldn't put him in any other hands but with the rising cost of healthcare and co-pays and Yale is not in our Network, so money will most certainly be on our minds as well as Josh's health and any ramifications of having open heart surgery.
So that my friends, is the deal. Now we wait (as we all know that is the hardest part-- the not knowing) , and my motto is always prepare for the worst, but hope for the best. I can't be delusional and think rainbows and unicorns - I am a realist at heart and would rather prepare myself for what can happen and he happily surprised when its better than I expected.
Joshua's First Video
We just used our video feature on our camera. Takes lots of memory, but cute video, except it keeps trying to focus. Here is Josh... in full action. They are not as great as I wanted them to be of course! He is yelling now, when he is not quietly babbling. It's cute but not at 4am when he is usually yelling at someone... we are not sure yet who!
Tuesday, January 28, 2014
Thursday, February 16, 2012
Tuesday, February 14, 2012
Time flies
Josh is doing awesome and that's probably the reason for the lack of posts. Pre-K has been amazing. Josh is one of the only kids reading in his class but he does have issues writing so we are working on that. I ordered some things to help with him holding his pencil. Hope they come in soon, I can't wait to see if they help. one is called a claw and then the triangle crayons and another thing that you can put on the pencil. Will take pics when they get here.
We had his cardiology appointment and the subaortic membrane hasn't gotten any worse which is good news. We will have to keep an eye on it. Every year for awhile... then every 2... even as an adult they will have to check it.. so we will be good friends with the cardiologists!
Other than that things are wonderful. He is thriving and keeping us entertained every day. The cooler is "refreshing" - he is always looking for something in "particular". Here's to awesome vocabulary!!
Saturday, October 01, 2011
Preschool and PottyTraining
Preschool has been good for Josh. He needs that social interaction, however it has not been without drama! Apparently some of the girls called Joshua a cheater. I have no idea of the story behind that, I am sure this was probably not huge but with a child who has not napped (naps have been reduced as he has afternoon school) he had a total meltdown over the incident. But he has made friends and this is all good. He went into Pre-K with a head filled with knowledge already. Thank goodness for Grandma! He knows all of his colors,can count to at least 20, knows his alphabet, can spell his name and can read a ton of words. But he is having issues in the writing arena. He still scribbles and the school has noticed that he may have some gross motor issues which is no surprise. So we will work on everything that needs to be worked on but he is reading at 4 1/2 and I am so proud!
Tuesday, February 15, 2011
Happy 4th Birthday!
We had hoped for even a few more days. What's a few days in labor? The contractions weren't regular so it could happen right? Well it was not to be. They had sent me back to a regular room and we had dinner (not the best idea considering LOL) Later in the evening they put me on the monitor for a 30 minute check of his heart rate, this was all routine. They noticed that every time I had a contraction, his heart rate dropped. This is called decelerations. They thought that because there was very little amniotic fluid that when I contracted, the cord was getting compressed. They warned me that this was not good. If it happened 4 times in an hour, we were going to have to deliver. It was about 3:45 in the morning when they decided that this was going to happen. I won't lie. I cried. I was scared. We knew he was going to weigh a little over a pound. We also knew that he only had a 75% chance of surviving. But we did have some science on our side. I had gotten steroid injections as soon as we hit 24 weeks to help strengthen and develop his lungs.
C-section was the only option. This scared the hell out of me. That wasn't even in the plan, but then again none if this was. It was an urgent decision. The prep was fast and in we went. Dave was amazing. As scared as he was he was trying to amuse me at the same time. Josh was born at 4:42 in the morning. They took him away as soon as he was born. I got the "it's a boy" before he was taken to be worked on. Dave got to see him a few times before me. It would be another 10 hours before I could get out of bed and get to the NICU. What a motivator I tell you!
I wish that no parent ever has to go through what we did. And even this was mild compared to some. There are some babies that suffer terrible brain damage due to bleeding in the brain and some that have issues like CP. We have been so blessed.
Josh is now a happy, healthy 4-year old with a few minor issues that frankly are not all that bad considering where we started.
So
HAPPY BIRTHDAY JOSHUA DAVID HARRINGTON!