I just wanted to answer the questions about Arran. He got to see Joshua two weeks ago during a "one time" visit until the flu/RSV rule has been lifted. He was a typical 12-year old boy... he went in, looked at him for a few minutes, and then was ready to go. He was afraid to touch him, so he didn't even put his hand in the isolette. I think for him, just seeing him was enough... he now knows that he is real. It's tough I think for him. He hasn't told many people that he has a little brother, perhaps that is protecting him from having to explain if anything were to go "wrong". He had just started to tell his friends that he was having a little sister before we lost Emilee so I think it's just easier for him to not say anything. His two closest friends know. I know he is excited to have him home where it will all be more real. He will get to come in again when he is back and I think we'll wait for him to come in until after we have him out and I am holding him and then he might want to let Josh hold his finger. It's a lot less intimidating when he isn't in the isolette!
Thanks for being concerned about the other man in our life!
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It must be awfully hard for Arran. He is just a boy himself. Its hard for adults and must be even harder for children. It has to be very frightening for him. Its good that you and Dave are aware of his feelings and can give him the guidance and encouragement he needs. He is going to be the best big brother and Joshua is very lucky to have him.
luv,
Dee & Jeff
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